Joint custody: 30+ good things about having time without your kids

When you first get joint custody of your kids during or after your divorce, it might be the first time — or only time — you spend more than 24 hours away from some of your favorite humans.

Because when they’re with their other parent, you will probably have this strange thing called “alone time.” And as good as it might sound, honestly, it’s a lot to get used to.

But as you’ll find over time, there are good things about joint custody…and some stuff that is not so great.

Yes, you will get used to it… but many of us will still feel the tug of an invisible umbilical cord for years.

Here’s a lighthearted look at the good things about you having a little time at home alone… and a few of the sad/bad things, too.

Good things about joint custody & time without your kids

1. They are maintaining or growing a bond with their other parent
2. Your kids are getting to experience things being done a different way, which helps make them well-rounded and broadens their horizons
3. And you — now you will have time to focus on yourself!
4. You can have a spa day (or three)
5. You can watch anything you want on TV without worrying about it being kid-friendly
6. You can take classes
7. You can shop (without constant requests)
8. You can travel
9. You can party with your friends
10. You can get drunk
11. You can sleep in until noon
12. You can date
13. You don’t need to find a babysitter
14. Nobody will ask why you got home at 3am
15. You can have people over… even overnight
16. You’ll save on your food bill
17. You can eat deliciously indulgent treats without sharing

18. Nobody will finish all but the last 1/4 ounce of the milk and leave the jug in the fridge
19. You can put something down and it will still be there later
20. You won’t have to do as much laundry
21. You can get home maintenance or improvement projects done without getting in the way of daily family life (paint the living room!)
22. You don’t have to make sure everyone’s up on time
23. You don’t need to remind kids to get ready. Repeatedly.
24. You don’t need to coordinate pickups or dropoffs
25. You can talk on the phone without being interrupted
26. You can cry without freaking the kids out
27. You can walk around the house in your underwear all day if you want (PS: See  10 cute panties you should be wearing instead of that ratty stuff in your underwear drawer)
28. You can swear loudly, and talk out loud to yourself, and nobody will mind
29. The dog will stop ignoring you in favor of their smaller human
30. You can sleep soundly knowing you don’t have to keep an ear out
31. It’s so quiet!

Bad things about joint custody & time without your kids

1. It’s too quiet
2. It’s no fun cooking for just one person
3. Nobody’s around to take out the trash or help with chores
4. There’s nobody at home to talk to
5. The dog will follow you around endlessly because their smaller human isn’t there
6. Nobody will laugh at your jokes
7. You worry that your kids aren’t okay or got hurt or forgot to brush their teeth or…
8. There’s nobody who can bring you an extra roll of toilet paper when it runs out
9. You worry you’ll fall down, and nobody will know, and your kids will get back and find you, and… on and on down that rabbit hole
10. You miss them
11. You really miss them

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